Here is the transcription for Episode 7- Fail At Something Cool
So I got interviewed for a podcast last week. I’m back on the podcast trail and I was interviewed by Mike Flynn from The Impact Entrepreneur Show. During the interview Mike touched on something that very few people had touched on during podcasts and interviews. And this is why I love doing these interviews because they pull stuff out of us that we might not even think. I know when we go on podcasts, when we’re guests on these things, a lot of times people have an agenda of what they want to talk about, but what it really comes down to are the questions that the host asks and then the responses that you get and even the curiosity that they bring from your story. So one of the things that we harped, on that we touched on was failing at something cool. And I never really thought about too much. I wrote it in my book and I’d said it a bunch of times, but when I was at the desperate mode of my life where I needed to figure something out when I was 22 you know, I was like, I’m going to go do photography now.
And knew nothing about it. And I said to myself, because I had failed at so many things in my life, I’d failed every major that I was at. I failed in high school. I said, I’m going to fail at this, but at least I’m going to fail at something cool. And I don’t think I realized how important that was on that day. And then going forward, because when I said that Mike really attached to that, like what do you mean by that in terms of failing at something cool. And then even after the call we talked, we talked for another half an hour and he told me about the keynote speech that he’s giving and it relates exactly to that. And the message behind failing at something cool is, this probably is not gonna work, but it’s something that I want to do. So I’m going to try it and I’m going to go after it, but it’s probably not going to work.
And you hear a lot of motivational talk. Like I know I’m going to, you know, affirmations that I’m gonna do well at this. And what I learned is there’s a lot of pressure or subconscious stuff that goes on with that, but when I said I’m probably going to fail but I’m going to fail at something cool. What it did, it gave me an open book. It gave me a blank slate to just go do what I want to do, and that is the reason why it worked is because my attitude out of it was, I am going to do this. I am probably going to fail, but it’s really cool what I’m going to do and I’m going to give it everything that I’ve got and there was no expectation to it and it’s kind of went on from there and I don’t think I realized until I talked to Mike during this podcast how often that had come up in my life later on and later on.
Because there’s no reason to think that I should have written a book. You know, there was nothing in school, there was no teacher. There’s nobody ever said, you should be a writer. You should go write a book. Or you should have the audacity to actually go write a book and get it published by a publisher and get endorsements by bestselling authors and famous people like, who you are you to think you can do that? And it wasn’t anything about who I thought I was. It was about I’m going to try something, I’m probably going to fail, but it’s going to be cool. So writing a book to me when I had decided to do it sounded really cool. There was no expectation that something was going to come from at starting a mastermind, you know, doing any type of coaching, the sports photography world or like doing an online course. All those things I had never done before.
I had no reason to think it’s going to be a success. So what if I had the pressure on myself, like I need to make this a success, I need to make each of these things a six figure business. Some people might thrive in that situation. And I think I thrive at it now because I’ve had a lot of confidence from those failures that turned into successes that I’m like, what’s, what’s their lose? There’s nothing really to lose by trying this. Let’s give it a shot. But in the very beginning, man, that was so incredibly impactful for me. So powerful for me to be able to pause, check the ego, say you’re going to do this anyway. You’re going to fail. You probably not going to care what people think about you failing because people are going to see you failing. When you put yourself out there and it doesn’t work, what happens is you realize the sun still comes up tomorrow.
I’ve had a lot of failures, but what happens is I forget about those. I forget. You know, I have to think about it when I was in the shower, what are the things that I tried that were really cool but failed and there are some, my blog that I did about five years ago, I quit. I quit doing it. You know, playing guitar. I quit all the time. I never get to where I want to get to, there’s this, there’s so many things. But what happens is I don’t think about those things because my time is spent thinking about the ones that I tried thinking I was going to fail and they became a success because when they became a success, it got more of my time. I put more time into it. It got better and better and better and I got more confident.
So the idea of, and that’s what Mike really touched on, the idea of, I’m going to try this, I’m going to give it the best that I’ve got. I’m probably going to fail, but at least it’s going to be something cool in the something cool part is really important because normally people I know that have carte blanche to do what they want to do with their lives and they don’t choose something that they think is cool. They choose something, they think it’s going to be for the money or because their mom wanted them to do it, but it’s not something that they wanted to do. And I can tell you when times get tough and when things go down and it’s not going the way that you want to go. If it’s not something you want to do, you will fail. And I’ve been there before.
But when it’s your book that is like, this is what I am going to do, I don’t care if anybody reads it, I’m going to make it happen. This is the business that you want to do is the job that you want. When you know there’s a chance of failure, but it’s what you want and it’s really cool to you, it just gives you that added up to go forward. So what that does for, at least for me personally and people that I’ve coached on this, is it allows you to see new things in your life that you have not done and not looking at it with fear, not looking at it with like, I don’t know what that is, so I’m not going to try it as you then look at it like that’s something I’m probably going to fail at it. But it sounds cool.
So to me, the idea of doing a podcast now is something I have no expectations that people are gonna listen to it. But I’m going to do it because that’s the next thing on top of that is the conference. Now I want to do a conference. Okay, I’ve never done a conference before. I’m now dreaming about it. I can picture it failing. But that picture of it failing really allows me to put the extra effort into it. But it’s something cool to me. And what happens is after a while people start looking at like, oh, you did this, this, this, that. They’re all sound awesome. Like how do you get to do the life that want to do? Because I’m choosing something that I want to do and something that I think is cool and I’m willing to risk failure to do it. So that’s what I think holds a lot of people back in terms of like their safety or their security, or I dunno if that’s gonna work or I’m afraid, what are people gonna think of?
It doesn’t work. You gotta get to where it doesn’t matter what people think. I was excited in the very beginning of telling people that I failed at photography. Isn’t that crazy? I remember sitting there and thinking, I was so assured that I was going to fail, that when I was in a job and I was 26 I was just excited about saying, you know, one time I tried photography, I gave it a shot. I failed, but I actually tried it. Something. That’s how desperate I was, and I’ve used that type of desperation that we use, talked about last week to propel you forward, where it’s like every new thing is a new adventure that I’m probably going to fail, but it’s something cool, but I’m too, things are going to happen. I’m going to give it my best shot and I’m not going to try at something that I don’t think is really cool. So that’s my motivation for you guys and girls. Let’s go fail at something. Cool. All right. Talk to you tomorrow.