Episode 22- “It’s Not My Jam”


The transcript for Ep. 22- “It’s Not My Jam”

So it’s entirely possible that I’m going to go on a little bit of a rant this morning cause I talked to two people this week. Two people that are freelancers, they’re looking to grow their business. They’re frustrated because they want more time to be able to do the work that they love to do. They’re struggling with money as a lot of freelancers are, and yet there are things they are not willing to do to get there. And the thing that both of them said that got to me that made me think about recording this episode was the term that’s not my jam. And one was related to photography and one was related to the online space. And both times when there are opportunities staring right at them, that would give them way more money in a lot less time, both of them looked down on the idea and blew it off. 

And that drives me crazy because they might be the same people that two years from now say you can’t do this. It’s not possible to make it in this world, that world that I wanted to get into. Oh, it’s just too tough and too competitive and there’s not enough money in it. And that’s not the case. The cases that they aren’t willing to do the work to get them to where this would be viable. I’ll give you the example of one of them, which is a photography business. now, they had a style of photography that they want to shoot in and there’s a style that they want to do. And there is a certain type of photography that they want to do. And there’s other areas like weddings for instance, that are way more profitable in a shorter amount of time that you can get moving and get to where you want to get to. 

But this person looked down on the idea of doing weddings just like I used to do, so I can relate because way back 14 years ago I did the same thing. I didn’t want to do weddings, but what they’re missing and what we learned was weddings got us to where we needed to get to. It wasn’t our jam. I’m not sure if that’s just the hot phrase right now, but I keep hearing it. It’s not my jam to do that. That’s not my jam. I don’t want to do that. And I’ll be honest with you, I don’t care if that’s not your jam. If you want to live this life that you’re striving for, I don’t care that is not your jam. I care that you get yourself set up so that you can actually do what you really want to do. Because the truth is nobody really cares right now about what you want to do. 

Nobody cares if you want to do portraits of flowers. Nobody cares. And if they do care, they are paying you for it. So there’s no reason to be having the conversation. So obviously you’re struggling with something. Obviously you’re struggling that you don’t have enough money and you don’t have enough time and you’re trying to get there, but you’re trying to fit a square peg into a round hole and you want to be done your way when you’re just beginning. And the it’s not my jam part is so frustrating because very few people get to do what they want to do from the very beginning. They had to do what they need to do, which is something that gives them more experience, gives them more expertise, gives them more trust, makes them the money, frees up the time because money is not a stress and then there’s more time freedom. 

And then with time freedom, you have the ability and the possibility to start doing what you want to do. Now, if you want to do your thing, your jam on the side and you work on that and give it 10 hours a week where you work on what it is exactly that you love working on, go for it. Go and do that. I encourage you, not only do I encourage, I recommend you doing that, but that’s probably not paying the bills right now. One day it will, but here’s the deal. When you don’t need the money and you have the time, you can now turn that into whatever you want to turn it into. And as long as you try to do that first and not have your money together, you’re going to be banging your head against the wall with tons of frustration and tons of almost entitlement that people don’t care about your art and they don’t care about your art. 

They care about it when it can help them. It’s not about what you want, it’s about what you’re doing that can help other people get what they want. So nobody cares about your art yet. You know, for me, the first six years of photography, I made $20,000. Nobody cared. Nobody cared about what I did because I cared, but nobody else did. And I had to find a way to make it to where they cared about what I did by helping them, and it gets frustrating because most of these people saying it’s not my jam are not in the position to say, it’s not my jam. Get to where you can do that, to say that. We’ve earned that point, right? So financially and time wise, we can say, even though I don’t use it, we can say it’s not my jam to just about everything. I’m just going to do what my thing is and I’m going to get better and better at that. 

But beforehand, get yourself set, get yourself financially set, get yourself time where you can think and create the art that you really want to do in the best way you do it instead of taking what you love doing and actually coming to resent it because it’s not giving you the money that you really want from it. So I’m not sure if that was a rant, but kind of was. So really the lesson from this is do the work until you don’t need to do that work anymore. And it’s not my jam thing is really just fear or procrastination or laziness or whatever it is, but do the work that you need to do so that you could then do the work that you want to do. As always, thank you so much for listening and I’ll be back with you tomorrow morning.

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